My Bridal Part 1

Dear Diary,

*Disclaimer: Please take note. I am saying this based on my own experience. I am not asking anyone to not choose the same bridal as me because some people may or may not go through the same thing as me. Some may agree and may not agree with me. If you're decisive, chances are you'll be happy with my bridal and my bridal has a lot and many pretty outfits which I cannot deny that when you look, you just go crazy over it. And I'm not saying this to bring anyone down but solely just sharing on what I feel and had to go through. At the same time to keep BTB & GTB prepared and a clear mind of what to expect when you're there if you choose the same bridal as me. That's all. :) Happy choosing.

22 February 2017

Yesterday was our first bridal outfit selection. I was feeling both excited and scary at the same time. Excited because of all the wedding preparation process, this is my most favourite I would say. I bet, this is the most favourite part of every BTB. For me, I want to look nice and beautiful on my wedding day, of course, we all do. Scary because I have a problem with decision making, not say problem, but I am quite fickle and I usually take a long time to choose something that I want. (Hint: Engagement ring & Wedding band) But all in all, despite my fickleness, everyone has been quite patience in my process of choosing the things that I want, EXCEPT my bridal.

Let's side track a little bit on my Post-wedding photoshoot:-

We received a call yesterday from our bridal saying that they had to cancel our post-wedding photoshoot on the day we have chosen which is 2 days after our wedding day and postpone it to another day. The reason being because 'somebody' else (some bride & groom whom I basically don't know who lah eh) 😔 already booked a flight ticket for them to fly off to somewhere to do their wedding photoshoot overseas. I was slightly (I can still use slightly for this) upset about that because we have already booked the date with the bridal FIRST yet they decided to change ours last minute just like that? They even said, that the 'somebody' have already booked the flight ticket for them and the 'somebody' cannot change the flight ticket to some other day. Well, is that my problem? That 'somebody' also gong is it?! You didn't ask for an available slot first with the bridal at which date they are available and you just booked? Nonsense! So, is my bridal telling me that D and I are not your priority? But overseas shoot are just because they pay more and we don't? But we are also your customer and we are also paying. Nevermind about that.

They then decided to push our photoshoot a week later, by then, it's already the fasting month. Because we decided to get married a week before Ramadhan (fasting month), at the same time it is also my birthday week/month. Plus, I don't want to do a post-wedding photoshoot after the fasting month or during the Hari Raya month. My conscience are very clear, I want my henna stain to still be visible on the wedding photoshoot (which is what Mama always preferred) and when Hari Raya comes, it'll be a month plus after the wedding. Yes I can be quite "determined" in a sense if I want something, I will want it. Furthermore, D and I  are probably tired to repeat the whole process of our wedding and at the same time, the excitement has already gone by then and we will be the pengantin basi kind. So nevermind, we didn't want to be that difficult and still decided to settle for a week after our wedding day during the fasting day just to get it over and done with and to be accommodative about it. K.

But the part the annoys me the most was during the bridal selection day. It pisses me off somehow, really.

I've heard from some of my friends that some and their bridal, well most bridal are accommodative and patience enough by allowing them to try on most of their wedding outfit there. But my bridal, no. When I was there, the lady, V (I don't want to name her but let's call her V) initially showed me her ipad on the different kind of songket they have for sanding (during the wedding reception day on a Sunday), basically all the design are their newly launch design/outfit. She then asked me what kind of sanding outfit that I wanted. She asked me if I wanted the modern songket or traditional songket. This is my FIRST time wedding, well it's always our FIRST wedding anyway right for most of us, I asked her what's the difference between the modern & traditional songket. V took out the modern songket from their newly launch collection kind for me to try and leave the traditional ones. So, okay. I just let it go. She then asked me what colour I wanted, fair enough, I told her I wanted to see both the Red & Green ones since I have 4 outfits altogether. And she took 2 green outfits and 2 red outfits from the modern songket new collections. So D asked, is this all the red & green that you have? And she said yes. Tsk! My sister wore a different kind of green for her wedding (same bridal) and V didn't even take out those for us to see. Since I was having a hard time deciding, V allow me to put on the outfit to try and asked D to snap a picture, so that I can choose them easily when seeing the picture. Luckily, all their newly launch collection songket is super super pretty. So I can just keep one eye close about not seeing the traditional songket kind. But then, the difficult part when I became so fickle about deciding which modern songket I want out of all the ones I tried. I can't decide to have the red or green for Saturday or Sunday, either one I'm confused because both are pretty looking. And of course I wanted the Sunday outfit to be the nicest one among all because that is where all my guests are present.

I tried 2 green songket - G1 & G2.
And another 2 red songket - R1 & R2

The G1 colour of the songket really makes it look wow and unique with the guy outfit in green too. The R1 outfit is wow too but the R1 ones is more of grey and the guys outfit is not in red but grey. Tsk! I also want D to look good leh, I don't want him to be in dull grey colour but no choice, the R1 for the female outfit is more wow than the G1. I tried another green, G2 that has a slight of blue colour with silver sparkling glitters and that outfit was nice too and I'd thought it could be for my sanding and the G1 for the Saturday night, then the R1 for my photo shoot since it looks very good in their pictures on the ipad. R2 was a no no for D, it was a mermaid kind and he said it looks not nice. Lol! Furthermore, he said that colour is more orangey than red.

When D direct V that I wanted R1 for photoshoot, G1 for Saturday and G2 for Sunday, she went, "Huh? Now both green for Saturday and Sunday? I thought you want one green and one red?" I could hear her say from the fitting room and so I was like "Yeahs eh, 2 of the same colour on the same day, so boring." So I decided to swop outfits in my head. I keep thinking how wow R1 is for people to see yet I want green colour on my sanding day, so I kept going back and forth on all those 3 outfits between which one to wear for Saturday, Sunday and for the photo shoot. Until I finally make a decision because V looked rather annoyed. K. So, settle on the sanding part.

Now comes choosing the outfit for the nikah (solemnization) part, V asked me what colour I wanted for nikah and of course, I wanted white since it symbolize purity, we'd all prefer white. BUT...V only took out 2 outfits for me try on out of the many white they have. I tried between those 2 white of mermaid cutting - W1 & W2 and yet again I couldn't decide because I love the cutting of W1, as the mermaid cutting is nicer, it's plain white but the design details are only on the top chest area of the outfit, while W2 have not much detail but it's a lace overall. I have a hard time deciding because I'll be wearing hijab, so the details on W1 might not be able to be seen because the hijab might cover it and the lace would be preferably be nice since it's not so plain boring. But I love W1 cutting because it makes me look slimmer and nice? Lol! As much as I love W2, D then suggested W1 for me and I settled for that. Then while D was choosing his nikah outfit, I saw one of their mannequin wearing the same white mermaid cutting - W3. So I was telling D, how come V don't let me try this one too? It looks nice. So V said to me that I better stop seeing anymore outfit because I'm getting a little bit more confusing and it confuses her also. Like seriously?! When she said that, I felt quite offended. Yes, I may be a difficult person to make a decision BUT I have to make the right decision in choosing at least what I want. We only marry once, hopefully. V was reluctant to take that outfit off the mannequin but D went "Take it down for her to try lah." And V did, she tried somehow to accommodate and let me try. When I tried W3, I like it but the cutting is the same as W2. So I decided not to take W3 and you can see how V look at me like she went through the trouble of taking the outfit off the mannequin and I don't want it. (Lol! I seriously don't know whether I should laugh or to cry at this point.)

Moving on to the gown outfit. I have always known I wanted a slightly bare back dresses and flare kind, something like what Bella in Twilight wear (even though her dress is not flare) but of course, not too much bare back because D's parents are conservative like that. So, I told V, what I wanted and she asked me if I wanted tube dresses. Obviously no tube dresses. Then she was like "Then what you want?" So I explain to her again, something bare back but with laces on and she showed me one dress with short sleeve. I told her I don't want short sleeve (regret for not trying this outfit on, maybe it will look nice on me) but something with full lace long sleeve and she showed me that she has only one design like that. I tried the gown on and I immediately love it. But when D saw it, he was like "So revealing." To me it's not but he was afraid that his parents will kill him for that. My sister wore something of the same kind like mine and to me she look just fine, nice and not revealing. So, D told me to choose whatever I want and which I did, I settle for that gown. Besides I'm afraid to try anymore gown because afraid V will say anything and I was feeling the pressure and headache of making decision.

After settling the actual day outfit, I was told to choose my bouquet as it is complimentary with the package. Of course, I keep flipping the page back and forth, back and forth trying to match the flowers to all my 4 outfit, if it's too red then my flowers cannot be seen on my red outfit. Too white, then my white flowers cannot be seen on my white outfit. So while choosing V went "Want to choose flower also headache. Next time I tell my florist don't put so many design for you, the more design you have, the harder it is for you to choose." Wah! I feel so offended that I just decide to choose one bouquet with 3 colours in it and close the album. Then D asked me "Why never choose bouquet with only 2 colours in it?" I wanted to see the album again, but V told me not to see it anymore.

My face changed. D knew at that point of time I'm very upset, frustrated, annoyed just a lot of mixture of feelings in one.

I was supposed to choose 4 more outfits for my photoshoot but D asked V if we could do it another day after seeing me that way. Just to ease me and give me time from today's stress. V said she has all the time today if we want to do it today and don't mind also if we want to do it another day. I was like in my heart, "She say have a lot of time today but keep rushing me to make decision and get "annoyed" at me. Shouldn't she give me time to think at least?" I'd thought to myself that I better come another day, before I make a rash decision on my other 4 outfits. This time I will do a research on the outfit that they have on their website etc and show them what I want. According to my sister , the bridal always expect you to know what you want when you're there, to make things easier but sadly, I don't and am not like that. Besides I also don't care what they want to think of me, if I'm being difficult or not etc, it's my wedding day, I'm paying and I just want to look my best.

After I left the bridal, I cried. I cried just outside the bridal for feeling everything at once. Frustrated, angry, annoyed, upset, satisfied and happy too. Lol! While walking to head for lunch with D and looking back at the pictures again for all the outfit that D and I chose during the try-out just now. Luckily, everything is seriously nice looking. Alhamdulilah! And I cannot wait to see when I'm fully don on the actual day. Lol!

I actually warn D not to be angry at them if they annoy us in any way but after seeing me cry, D went "Can I get angry and tell them at least if they are not treating us right?" I had to allow and agree with him on that part. LOL!

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Got home and D told me that his parents doesn't agree that the fact that we are doing our post-wedding shoot during the fasting month because it is just inappropriate. So he told me, it's either we do a pre-wedding shoot (which to me is more inappropriate since we are not married yet and how can we be touchy for pictures) or we cancel the whole post-wedding shoot. Of course I was annoyed. I was annoyed for the 2nd time in a day. I've deposited money already seh, it'll be a waste of money to cancel because we won't get our money back.

Besides a wedding photoshoot is once a lifetime. Plus, I have already made myself very clear why I wanted a post-wedding shoot and not pre-wedding shoot and I am not going back on my decision. Anyway, D is already my husband by then and we're already halal, so a photoshoot won't kill us besides maybe we will just be tired and thirsty since it's the fasting month.

All thanks to my bridal ah that we have to go through this kind of thing.

But anyway, we have settle this part already. I'm just afraid of my 2nd appointment of choosing my photoshoot outfit. Arhhhhh.   I told them I wanted to put on the sanggul lintang during my wedding day and now I'm thinking, should I should I not? Because I'm afraid I will look different and not nice. Errrr. And I probably want D to change his wedding blazer colour to something else, grey is too main stream. Hurrrr!

Hahaha! There you go bridal. I'm going to make changes again. I'll decide and see you soon.

XOXO,

Princess Azie Anni ♥