150 To Date.

Dear Diary,

150 days to date or minus days left.

It's pretty hard when you don't have so much help around you. At this moment, there are many things that are still left unsettled for me.

And I find it harder and even harder as the days got nearer. I dread my wedding preparations and there are times I just want to run away & disappear, never to see anyone else. I've been warned by many BTBs before and I know I am not going through these things alone. Many BTBs have mentioned to me that they have faced the same or about the same situation as me before. But the fact, their parents were there and everyone else were there.

Mama has always been the one that managed everything for the family and is very understanding about my situation. Ayah on the other hand is good at ordering his way around but rarely help or even know how to help. The wedding is all on me and since it's getting nearer I could not spare enough for my own wedding, and D is working hard, OT after OT tremendously. I'm not lying if I say that we do not quarrel. D is human too, working OT means he gets tired easily and rarely get to spend enough time with me. Which also means I feel neglected most of the time, especially when I needed him to be with me to discuss and settle all the wedding preparations.

I feel so pressure that I realized I have been losing my patience and temper a bit too easily, a bit too much lately. I became very much petty over little tiny things and it gets me annoyed. And at this time too, I discovered many things that I think...could meddle with my trust and I became more and more vulnerable, more and more insecure. I don't trust so much most of the time. The last time I heard, well for the many times I've seen how, when someone trust so much, in the end their trust consumed them over things that they never picture that could have happened but it happened. So I became very careful yet sometimes I could not even explain myself.

But then again, I never have to feel, or care or face about this kind of things before. But I do not know why all these feelings started to make its presence and appearance just before the wedding. So much so, it's taking a toll on my life and my emotions. Sometimes I wished to just don't care but it's hard because all these revolves around my life - and will be carried to the future. I hope this is just a wedding kind of trials & obstacles, no more after that, hopefully.

Fairytale wedding never exist do they?

  

Finally booked the wedding venue for my side yesterday. Syukur Alhamdulilah! D and I actually went down 2 weeks ago to book the Multi-Purpose Hall (MPH) for my side but they told us the booking is not open yet till yesterday.  And my side used to be under the Choa Chu Kang Town Council before but recently we were split under the Yew Tee-Marsiling Town Council continent. The last time booking for a void deck for wedding, all you needed was just to produce your IC and you're good to go. That was what happened for D, since his place is still under the old Town Council - Bukit Panjang Town Council, thus booking the void deck was super easy, that even his mom could do it for him. But on the other hand, I went through so much difficulty.

Yew Tee-Marsiling Town Council - They needed me to produce the ROMM approval letter (but their website stated ROM and not even ROMM letter) Seriously, this part is a bit too.....zzzzz. They don't realized ROMM and ROM are 2 different processes and decisions are involved in here. Yes, it may be 4 months plus from now to our wedding but D and I haven't even decide yet on the solemnization time and which naib kadi we would like to choose (which ROM doesn't require for any naib kadi decision. Duh!) for our wedding. I don't even know which kadi is who for now.

And registering into the portal means you have to decide all these already and make the ROMM administration payment which cost $39. Yes, $39 may be cheap to some but for us who is cash-tight, it's a lot. And they'll charge you again if you make any last minute changes to the registration. At the same time, you also have to confirm your solemnization venue when registering for ROMM, which in my case it is held at my MPH itself. Let's just say we already wrote down the MPH for the solemnization venue, registered and made the ROMM payment but when we go down to the Town Council, we don't get to book the void deck because someone else have already booked it before us. This means we have to make amends on the ROMM registration, which means we have to pay for the amendment changes as well. And is the Town Council going to pay me for that?

The Town Council keep warning me that the void deck is based on a first-come-first serve basis. Yah duh! I know. That's the reason why I wanted to book it earlier but they die-die wanted me to produce the ROMM approval letter when we don't even get to book the venue yet. I think it's only right, if after knowing I am successful in booking the venue, then can I do my ROMM process, correct? Haiz! If I know this kind of thing would have happened, I would have done my wedding elsewhere like at Royal Palm or Desa Kartika or anywhere else. But of course, my dad would not want it. He still love the idea of gotong-royong and rewang kind of kampong wedding feeling at the void deck kind. But after much exchanges of words, they finally approved my booking for the MPH, but I have to come back in a month's time from now to produce the ROMM approval letter.  After the successful in booking the venue, I made the deposit plus the extra charges for booking the MPH inclusive of the electricity and water usage bills too. And I guess this time, D and I have to finally decide on our solemnization time and who we want our naib kadi to be. I have never thought I would have to register for ROMM this early by January 2017 next month, always thought I wanted to do it somewhere next year but in February or March but I guess....Kita yang merancang, Allah SWT yang tentukan.

But well, lucky they finally did approve my booking for the venue. Alhamdulilah! Or else I would have wasted twice of my annual leave for this thingy. Plus, the place is so far from my house, all the way at Marsiling and it's like so farrrrr to walk to the Town Council office. Zzz!

Till here.

I am very stressed up currently that I am having heart palpitations now & then, I have been vomiting after consuming my food, my stomach feels very uneasy each time of the day, I get agitated & annoyed easily, I cry without realizing and I have been having such throbbing headaches. Haiz!

I missed my old self.

What has one wedding done to me?

Like D always try to encouraged me,

"We will persevere okay. I will help you in whatever ways I can. We are already in our last lap, the final hurdle, we can do this together. Once the wedding is over, we can chill, relax and be happy together."

Insyaallah.

But what he doesn't realized, things never get easier as we grow older. More and more responsibility, more and more problems, more and more things to think about, to decide on too. Think about yourself now and 10 years back when you were in school, Polytechnic etc, the ONLY stress you probably have or your so called MAJOR stress was about school; projects, exams or maybe money for some. But now you have bigger responsibility, bigger stress, bigger decision. Nevermind, let my fiancé have the benefit of the doubt for now, his own doubt. Tsk.

XOXO,

Princess Azie Anni ♥ 

Kasih Sejati, SuChi Success Day 2

Dear Diary,

Day 2:- 11 December 2016

This time D woke me up with his countless text and missed call to wake me up so that I will not be late. I woke up on time too and got myself ready and since we were quite early, we took the public.

And early in the morning, D had to spoil my mood. It all started because the night before, his family and him were discussing about his venue déco. I asked him certain questions and he could answer me and it got me annoyed. I felt like he wasn't much involved about the wedding preparations but leaving everything to his parents to decide this and that. Who's wedding is it anyway?  So he showed me some of the deco (probably trying to prove to me lah that he is being initiative.)

The moment I saw, it was totally off the list. I am very particular about certain things, the deco being one of it. So, when he showed me these 2 deco, obviously I went "Noooo!" The fact is, I am also going to sit at the pelamin okay. This pelamin is like..........I don't even want to say it. Faham-faham je lah eh. I can be as easy going and sembarang 99% of the time but when I am particular about something, I will...be....very......particular. Even for the Kompang (which sadly I didn't get to choose) since it comes under his catering package and they don't even know what is their kompang company called. I told D if the kompang is not up to my expectation, you know like some kompang can really kompang like the berterabuh kind, I don't want to move.  Hahaha!

 

 

So obviously not this two. D showed me some more deco and I was okay with some and I went to their fb and suggested him somemore of their deco. Well, as long as it's not Gold and Red, even though Red is my favourite colour but the colour combination is a no-no. Ni Malay wedding eh bukan.......

 

 

My favourite was this one obviously but,

Wasn't D's favourite but it's okay, any other deco but not gold and red. Moving on due to this topic, D mentioned something which kinda hurt my feelings.

D: Oh yes. My dad kata, bilang dengan bakal kau, jangan pakai baju terdedah sana, terdedah sini nanti.

I know the intention was good and of course, I am aware of the things I can and cannot wear during a Malay wedding reception. Of course, I won't wear those bustier dress even though I really wanted to but I know I have to respect the makcik & pakcik there. So, I'm getting something a little more covered but hopefully with lace kinda. Then like that also cannot. Furthermore, it's my wedding. My wedding! If I can't be happy on my wedding with EVERYONE TELLING ME WHAT TO DO and EVERYONE SAYING WHAT IS THEIR WANT BUT NOT LISTENING TO WHAT I WANT, THEN why am I getting married in the first place?! And if my wedding is being plan and control by other people, then why is it even call MY wedding?

So I didn't talk to D, I kept quiet until we reached the class.

The class started with Puan Suriati on Module 7 & 8 since I think Encik Khair was busy with something else again and so we skipped Module 5 & 6 at the later part.

Module 7:-

• Asas-asas Komunikasi
• Komunikasi Lelaki & Perempuan
• Bahasa Cinta
• Tips Komunikasi Berkesan

Module 8:-

• Konflik & Resolusi
• Kemaafan
• House Rules
• Nota Kasih Sejati

I love how this class too. It's really more of interacting between you and your partner. Puan Suriati made us exchange our books even more compared to yesterday's modules. Thus, the boys were made to shift place and sat at the same row as where their partner is sitting, so it will be easier to exchange books. In module 7, we learn about our 'Bahasa Cinta' more of what we call your 'Love Language'. It consist of..

1) Words of Affirmation
2) Acts of Service
3) Receiving Gifts
4) Quality Time
5) Physical Touch

I remembered doing this like 2 years ago and I was more of the Quality Time and D was the Words of Affirmation and this time when I did it again, SURPRISINGLY, D was Quality Time and guess what was mine? Physical Touch. HAHAHAHAHAHA!

Faz, sitting next to me chuckled seeing mine. So we were told to exchange our book with our partner. Most of the guys had Physical Touch (of course) and girls had Quality Time or Words of Affirmation as their Love Language. So, D upon seeing mine being the physical touch, he just gulped down his saliva hard and stared at me at the corner of his seat in disbelieve. Hahahahahaa! I wanted to change to something else but no matter how much I changed it, it was still Physical Touch. Gatal nah ke aku? Lol!

So Puan Suriati mentioned that our love language might change over time. Like now maybe we might prefer Receiving Gifts but sometimes after marriage, we might prefer Acts of Service rather. We had our tea break and D kept making fun of me about the 'Physical Touch'. I can't deny the fact that MOST of the time, all I do is to touch him. Okay please don't get me wrong. Not anyhow touch-touch lah okay. I just like to tickle or poke-poke him that's all and makes him "frustrated." LOL!

The class ended on a sweet note.

It taught us to always forgive each other at the end of the day and include Islamic verses and quotes to love one another. Even as I'm writing this, I feel like crying. I remember Puan Suriati mentioned, the best couples are the ones that forgive each other before they sleep (something which D and I try to practice and hopefully continue to practice.) There are some people who fought with each other and who knows God take their partner's life away and fighting with each other only cause you greater regrets then. And Puan Suriati mentioned 'Percayalah. Jodoh kita itu adalah yang sebaik-baiknya pilihan untuk kita dari Allah SWT. Hormati lah dia, hargai lah dia, pelihara lah dia dan sayangi lah dia seperti mana anda mengenggam sebutir mutiara yang tinggi nilainya.' So we were told to write a note to each other on a heart shaped paper and then to exchange at the end of the class before heading for our lunch.

Went for our lunch break and this time we had Nasi Briyani. It was super nice and this time D and I finished our food. Lol!

Screenshot from my Insta video.

After our lunch, we continued our next lesson of Module 5 & 6 (supposedly) by Encik Khair. Encik Khair has a unique way of teaching. He doesn't really go book by book but explain and recap everything that we need to know in general & in-depth at the end of the day of life after marriage. His class is so much fun, we laugh even more and had more interaction games. He does not only cover the aspect on life after marriage but include unsur-unsur agama into it.

 

 

D had the easiest position lah eh. Haha! The twister spinner doesn't want to cooperate with me but keep giving D the easiest pose. Lol! Anyway, this game taught us that life after marriage will not always be smooth-sailing (considered ours was. Insyaallah. Amin). Like how complicated these positions are, that will be how tough marriage life can be, but what most important is we overcome them together.

We had our tea breaks and continued the lesson, this time understanding the difference of how girls and boys differ in emotion wise.

We ended the lesson half an hour later and even so, I don't wish for the class to end. I made new friends and I love how interesting the class were. We were then told to write our feedback/surveys before leaving, at the same time Encik Khair called the boys name to give our our certificate in completion of the pre-marriage course.

I will DEFINITELY recommend Kasih Sejati by SuChi Success to any BTB & GTB out there. It's worth the money and time. It's fun and you'll learn so much more and it's definitely something different from any other pre-marriage course I've heard from any BTB & GTB that doesn't touch much about this or that aspect that was being feedback by them. It's a feeling I cannot explain after attending this course after numerous times of exchanging book with D. It's something I will remember for the rest of our lives being married together and hopefully to incorporate them into our daily life after this.

If some of you are introvert. Don't worry, you can also attend this course. It's not so much about interacting every time. The interaction part is slightly little only, most of the time you'll just sit down, listen to the instructor and exchanging books with your partner. If you don't feel comfortable to interact, you can just keep quiet like I did (but became slightly talkative before the lesson end. Hehe!) Don't need to worry. D is more of the introvert kind, he dislike making friends and meeting new people but he survived. Hehe!

So, to experience what I experience and to understand what I meant, sign up for your pre-marriage course by Kasih Sejati by SuChi Success okay?

Link:-

 

http://www.kasihsejati.com/ks/web/page.asp?topic=208

XOXO,

Princess Azie Anni ♥

Kasih Sejati, SuChi Success Day 1

Dear Diary,

First and for all I would like to apologize for all my language, vocabulary and grammar constructions that sounds pretty horrible whenever I blog. Lol! The reason being, I always don't realized that I made those mistakes not until I press 'publish' and re-read again what I've written the next day or the next day after. By then, I can't be bothered to correct them since I need to use a laptop (cannot use handphone, keep hanging and shut down) to log into blogger. But sometimes, when I have the free time, I usually do the change (by then people have already read my entry.) Furthermore, I usually blogged during late night and I'm already half-sleepy and rushing to get the entry published. LOL! Plus plus, I myself is aware that my English is not so good anyway. So thank you for bearing all my ugly vocabs people.  Hehehe!

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Last weekend, D and I attended our pre-marriage course for 2 straight days from 9am-6pm by SuChi Success, Kasih Sejati.

Since D is on 2 weeks leave, so we decided to settle the pre-marriage course this month. Besides his shift job doesn't allow him to do a full straight course back to back like this especially on a weekends plus some of my friends suggested to do the pre-marriage course 6 months prior to our wedding and obviously both of us have less than 6 months time left before our wedding day.

Our course was held at SuChi Success Training Centre itself. Take note that different days/week of the pre-marriage course will be held at different venue sometimes. It could be the training centre itself or at a mosque, so choose accordingly to your preferred date and venue.

Since mine was held at SuChi Success Training Centre, it's not necessary to put on the tudung compared to having it in the mosque (of course compulsory) but I think it's only appropriate to do so since it was stated in the e-mail for ladies to preferably put on the hijab.

Day 1:- 10 December 2016

We were told to report half an hour earlier at 8.30am for the registration but I woke up like an hour late because I slept quite late the night before (My auntie & family plus Adik & family was over at my place and left quite late.) D didn't even wake me up! He thought I was getting ready and that was why I didn't text him at all. 7.30am - I jumped out from my bed and quickly had my shower. I hate missing fajr prayers whenever I'm late but I had to because I was already running late.

I tried to call for cab but NO CABS! I even tried Uber, tried Grabcar, Grab Taxi. Seriously or what?! By then I was super annoyed because we were left with less than an hour to reach from the West all the way to the East. SuChi Success Training Centre is located at Paya Lebar, mind you.

I decided to give up on the cab and left home to flag for the taxi at the bus stop, and again... No sign of cab but the bus came instead. So I took the bus and headed to Lot 1's Taxi Stand hoping to get a cab. There was a queue at the taxi stand but no cab were available. Good job CCK!  I was pretty annoyed because by then it was already 8.15am. So, D called me to board the LRT to his place in Bukit Panjang since he said, the Expressway there leads to Paya Lebar much faster. And so I did, I took the LRT and met him at his area. Both of us tried Grabcar and guess what?! Both of us got a cab!  D cancelled his grab car and used mine instead since mine was a grab taxi. (Afraid grab car drivers don't know their way around and we will be wasting time).

 I was furious, angry because I dislike being late. D tried to calm me down inside the cab. He kept saying that it was not my fault that I was late and it's really no used getting upset, getting angry because it won't change anything. He took his phone and check his GPRS and showed me that we will reach the venue just nice by 9am, before the course start and held my hand tight to calm me down. Haizzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzz. He always seems to know what to do whenever I get upset, I get angry just like Mama.  Made me miss Mama.

D was right, we reached by 9am and we rushed to the training centre at the 4th floor by stairs because we couldn't find the lift. Hahaha! We registered ourselves and we were given a cute cat pen and a book each for the lesson.

I saw the registration paper and apparently, there was another couple that was later than us. (So we didn't feel that bad) Sat inside the room and we were separated into one side female and male (but in the same room.) Those who came early were lucky because they get to sit near their partner separated by just a small middle alley but D and I were quite far apart. I sat at the 5th row which is the last row, 2nd sit from the middle alley and D sat at the 3rd row, 3rd sit from the middle alley. But I could see him from where I sat but slightly difficult for him to see me, since he have to turn back to his left in order to see me. Hehehe!

The instructor/trainer came and started the course after the both of us took our place. Flipped into the book and they have from Module 1 all the way to Module 8 or Chapters in my own words. I'm not sure how they usually run the course but ours weren't in sequence on that day. We jumped in between Module because apparently, the trainer Encik Khair couldn't be present early in the morning to run the Module 1 & 2 for us. And the lesson is of course conducted in Malay and a mixture of English but mostly Malay, so some people there, probably English spoken at home, (I don't know how difficult can Malay language be hard to understand if you are Malay. They don't use difficult Malay language)  said they find the lesson hard to understand because they don't understand Malay. K.

The Module is as per follow:-

Module 1:-

• Konsep Keserasian
• Profil Personaliti
• Analisa Personaliti
• Komitmen Terhadap Perkahwinan

Module 2:-

• Konsep Keluarga Asal
• Mengenal Bakal Mentua & Keluarga Pasangan
• Profil Kewangan Pra-Nikah
• Rancangan Pernikahan

Module 3:-

• Pengertian Nikah
• Syarat & Rukun Nikah
• Konsep Taalik
• Tanggungjawab Suami & Isteri
• Konsep Nafkah
• Sunnah Dalam Nikah

Module 4:-

• Erti Cinta, Kasih & Sayang
• Konsep Nafsu
• Seks & Intimasi
• Adab-adab Seks

Module 5:-

• Tekanan-tekanan Awal Perkahwinan
• Konsep Perubahan & Penyesuaian
• Tahap-tahap Emosi
• Membuat Keputusan
• Menghadapi Perubahan & Membuat Penyesuaian

Module 6:-

• Kepimpinan Keluarga
• Isu Zuriat
• Profil Kewangan Selepas Nikah
• Keperluan Kewangan Keluarga

Module 7:-

• Asas-asas Komunikasi
• Komunikasi Lelaki & Perempuan
• Bahasa Cinta
• Tips Komunikasi Berkesan

Module 8:-

• Konflik & Resolusi
• Kemaafan
• House Rules
• Nota Kasih Sejati

So we started with Module 3 & 4 first with Ustaz Jalil as our trainer and he was very good. So firstly, it was the ice-breaker part. We were told to get to know at least 3 new person (if you don't go for the course with friends) in the class and to remember their name. So in a row there was at least 5 people. I turned to my right and got to know this girl call Suzannah and my left was this girl call Fazanah (called her Faz) by short which I became closer to her during the course, Surprisingly, at the same row it was my own Primary school friend, Farhana and poly friend, Aisyah. LOL! And then we were told to remember another 3 names, this time the front row turned to the back and I got to know Suhaila and Mista and....I couldn't remember what was the other girl name that sat in front of me. LOL!

Module 3:-

• Pengertian Nikah
• Syarat & Rukun Nikah
• Konsep Taalik
• Tanggungjawab Suami & Isteri
• Konsep Nafkah
• Sunnah Dalam Nikah

Module 4:-

• Erti Cinta, Kasih & Sayang
• Konsep Nafsu
• Seks & Intimasi
• Adab-adab Seks 

The lesson started soon after. Ustaz Jalil asked us on what was our definition of nikah and told us to write in the book. And after which, he told us to WhatsApp our definition to our partner. Krik krik krik! I don't want to WhatsApp D because I felt uncomfortable to share him my thoughts but...his WhatsApp came in and so I WhatsApp him back mine. HEHEHE!

Mine

His

And I didn't know I was getting married to a doctor. Half the time I couldn't figure out what he actually write.

So all in all, we learn about nafkah too, who is solely responsible for the nafkah of the family after marriage etc. (Fact: Husband of course!) And what to do before the akad nikah. Like to perform your 2 rakaat solat sunat, to ask for forgiveness from your parents, and to selawat before leaving your house all the way before reaching the solemnization venue. And to perform 2 rakaat solat sunat after the solemnization, and the husband is encouraged to place his hand on his wife forehead while reading some doa that was taught during the course. (We were made to memorize. Hehe!)

The lesson carried on for Module 3 with Ustaz Jalil with tea break in between and then Module 4 before we head for our lunch break. Module 4 is of course about sex which of course some of the boys were being naughty...;aughing half the time in the class.  But...Ustaz Jalil include the appropriateness of doing sex etc. And what I like about this module is the doa that was taught and we were made to memorize them during class. Yesss, we are not animals and as husband and wife, sex is an ibadat actually, not something to be made funny of. Thus, of course prayers and doa have to be read in order for syaitan or jin not to "bother/join" us. It touches my heart what I learn about marriage in Islamic context. So much love. :)

After which we headed for our break. Sadly I didn't take a picture of the food but we had Nasi Sambal Goreng and Begedil with Lemak Cili Api Chicken. They were so generous with the portion that even D and I couldn't finish ours. Hehe! The boys proceed with their Zohor prayers and some of the girls too but I didn't. =X I know. I always seems to feel a bit uncomfortable to solat anywhere if it's not home or the mosque.

Manage to screenshot from my Insta story video. Hehehe!

An hour later, we started our class again, this time it was a different instructor known as Encik Faizal, who cover Module 1 & 2 . I didn't know that different module was conducted by different instructor. By right, it was supposed to be Encik Khair but Encik Faizal said, Encik Khair had some last minute thing to attend to and so he had to take over.

Encik Faizal was okay in conducting the lesson but prolly it was quite some time that he conducted a lesson that he seems to be slightly blur, confused & less confident before we took our 2nd tea break, then he was pretty much better at conducting the lesson. I find learning module 1 quite interesting too.

Module 1:-

• Konsep Keserasian
• Profil Personaliti
• Analisa Personaliti
• Komitmen Terhadap Perkahwinan

We learn about of personality differences with our partner. Based on a few questions, we were told to answer and do the scoring and calculations. So different questions asked is divided into different categories such as your Anggur (Grape), Pisang (Banana), Oren (Orange) and Tembikai (Watermelon). During which in the lesson, they were many times we had to exchange book with our partner to compare etc. Hahaha! And the most highest score of these fruits, describe most our personality. I was more of the Anggur (my highest score) whereas D is more of the Pisang. Anggur is described to be someone who socialize and talk more whereas Pisang is more of the quieter and deep thinking ones. I had slightly score of Pisang, Oren and Tembikai as well but just Anggur being the highest but funny how D had ZERO score of anggur which really explain how much he doesn't like socializing at all. HAHAHA! So, they taught us how to "deal" and understand each other personality. Many times D exchange glances at me and shake his head in agreement to the instructor. Lol!

Module 2:-

• Konsep Keluarga Asal
• Mengenal Bakal Mentua & Keluarga Pasangan
• Profil Kewangan Pra-Nikah
• Rancangan Pernikahan

Continue with module 2 after our tea break and we learn ways on how to "deal" and understand each other's family. What are the do(s) and don't(s) and how do we overcome "conflict" or rather differences about each other's family. Because moving into each other's place will definitely be a culture "shock" to each one of us since we are all brought up differently. And again, we were told to exchange book with our partner to discuss and exchange ways on how we can overcome them. Hehe!
We ended the class on time at 6pm since the boys were making noises (boys as usual being boys) and Encik Faizal mentioned that tomorrow Encik Khair will be taking over the class and so we should really come on time in order to finish on time. Hehehehe!

Next entry for Day 2.....

XOXO,

Princess Azie Anni ♥

Post-BTO Selection

Dear Diary,

Today was the day, it was our house selection day. I shall no longer brag about how last my queue number was.

So anyway, D parents picked me up at 8.15am from home and drove us to the HDB Hub, Toa Payoh. We were all of course quite blur since it was D and my first time there and D's parents first time after 5 years I'm supposed? Lol! We reached the HDB Hub at around 8.45am and took the lift up to the 3rd storey, leading to the showcase floor where you can see approximately how all the different 2-room, 2-room flexi, 3-room, 4-room and 5-room flat will look like, feel like, especially their size in sqm. Since we were quite kiasu, so we skipped the showroom and decided to head down to the appointment area first and to come back later.

We reached the appointment area of HDB Hub and D typed his IC out on the system and tadaaaa, we received our queue number slip. We went to the information counter and the person said, they'll call us up at around 9.45am (our fix timing given) which was an hour later from what time it was. Tsk! My friend told me that if we come earlier than the first person who has an appointment before us, we will be served first but apparently not.

D's parents was super excited about us getting a flat especially in Bukit Panjang area, they were so eager to look at the 3D model of the unit we wanted to choose. Hehehe! And so was my dad actually. I had Ayah's laptop on with the Bukit Panjang site map early in the morning before I left for my HDB appointment just to see and reconfirm what I wanted again. (Already the night before I couldn't sleep and went to bed only at 3am. ) At the same time to confide and update Ayah on the new block that D and I might be choosing instead of the old one since it was already gone with the wind.

Of course, Ayah wasn't very keen initially on the new block that I wanted to choose because it was facing the Chinese temple, but that is the second best (I THINK) house to choose from in terms of view and less obstructions around the flat. I'm really very concern when it comes to the pemandangan (like Ayah would say. Hahaha!) The service yard is free from facing other people's house and have a rooftop garden view and so is my living room + bedroom, apart from the Chinese temple, there's another rooftop garden in front of it. And I really hope there's wind ~ ~ ~ breezing in.

So yes, I kinda left home with a heavy heart and undecided still when D texted me that his parents was already waiting for me at the loading area to pick me up. Not realizing, I left the HDB page opened on my Ayah's laptop. Half-way at the expressway, Ayah called me excitedly (apparently, he studied the page) and told me that the block was quite good since the temple is a bit far (hopefully) and the amenities around that area was good. He put down the phone and called me again the next second and said the block is really really good this time. LOLOLS!  D chuckled away at the back and said my dad can be funny-cute sometimes and said that I behave exactly like my dad. I disagree okay. I don't. Okay, maybe the indecisive part.

While in the car, I had the HDB site on in my phone and I kept questioning D if we are making the right decision in choosing the other block with the Chinese temple view. Since, the Chinese temple is.......really........causing.....me.....so....much...........doubts......dot dot dot.

 

         

And all D did was to keep laughing at me because he probably find my indecisiveness quite amusing. I can just be this indecisive. So I gave up while in the car and took a short nap and told D to let his parents decide rather, when we reach the HDB Hub.

  

D parents "studied" the 3D model of the flat that we wanted to choose and their first option was of course the block we wanted to choose initially but knowing only lower unit floor that was only left, they were half-hearted about it too. I'm okay in staying at the lower floor since my current house now is only 3rd storey "high" but D and his parents stays at the 11th storey, so they are used to staying and be at higher floor. At the same time, I tried to accommodate to D preferences as well.

I then told D parents about the next block we wanted to choose as our next option and they said, it was good enough too. D parents wasn't concern much on the Chinese temple but more of what is going to be built opposite of our flat, since there is an empty plot there. I guess it probably be a high rise condominium, but I don't think it will block our view that much since we are facing the KJE, but not to near to be disturbed with traffic noises but hopefully to get good wind, good breeze.

With that, we, I, rather somehow come to a conclusion on that block (still feeling half-hearted about it) and the next indecisive thing we had was...which storey, which floor since that particular block has still quite a few high units left. Lol! And since that was the only thing left to decide and we are still early, we had breakfast at Delifrance while waiting for our appointment time.

After much discussion, we decided to take 8th storey unit instead. I'm slightly afraid of height after yesterday when I tried to go up to the 20th floor of another HDB house and while standing near the rubbish chute with the wind blowing so strong, looking down at our BTO site, it makes me feel slightly scared. I thought I was going to be blown away by the wind. Lol!

  

At 9.30am, we went back to the appointment waiting area, and continued looking at the 3D model when D's mom called us and said our queue number has been called up. We proceed to the room that was flashed on the screen, with D's parents following us too.

The good thing, we had the corner counter and this Malay lady had 2 small stool next to her and so all 4 of us get to sit down. So the lady asked us which appointment we're here for, is it the May or the August BTO, is it for the Bukit Panjang or Sembawang one. I was quite surprised that she asked, so I told her for the Bukit Panjang one of course. And she asked us, if we still wanted the Sembawang one, else she can proceed us with the Sembawang.

I didn't know they can actually do that, like as long as I have a queue number and I secure 2 queue number BTO at hands, I can use the nearest appointment to book for the later appointment. I could have gotten the best unit for Sembawang if I were to make a selection today in order to avoid leftover units, since my queue number for Sembawang was also quite far and the appointment is not till January 2017. BUT...we only came prepared for Bukit Panjang and I don't want to disappoint both of our parents, they are only keen on Bukit Panjang and not Sembawang either. I still remember D's dad were saying something, some remarks when he saw Sembawang and Bukit Batok 3D model. Thus, explaining they only prefer Bukit Panjang area.

So the lady asked us for the unit we have decided on, funny how D and I look at each other so blur and he just came up and chose the 12th storey. HAHAHAHAHAHA! I just cannot. How we jumped from 8th floor to 12th storey out of sudden. I guess it must be Allah's way of making this decision for us. D's mom was happy about the floor but she prefer higher floor that she even suggested us to take the 20th storey and I told her I cannot do it 20th storey, it's too high for me. Lol! And she was like "Azie takut eh tinggi-tinggi?" Like yes, I am and I have never stayed so high up like that. So while selecting the unit, D's mom saw 14th floor was also available and she was like "Achid! Tingkat 14 ada kosong." And D was like "Sudah, nanti nak terberak ke apa, nak tunggu sampai lift naik sampai ke rumah, tak sampai-sampai." I can just picture me! Omigod, almost every single day, I always left some things at home. I'll reach 1st storey and run back up to home to get it. Sometimes, I have already walked to the interchange and I realized I forgot some things and I'll walk back home. =X So I cannot imagine staying at higher floor. Tsk.

So the lady explained to us some things here and there, which I was seriously so gong about things. My usual "ah ah ah" but never understand some things. She asked if wanted the flooring and door to be built together, looking blur, she somehow knew we haven't seen them yet, so she told us to proceed to the 'flooring & door showcase' at the waiting area to have a look at the tiles and door if we wanted them included.

So D's parents and D was asking what flooring we wanted, if we wanted all Polished Porcelain or Vinyl Strip for our home. D prefer the Vinyl Strip flooring while I told them, I wanted Polished Porcelain for the living room (since it's almost off white colour, it can go with any wall colour painting) and Vinyl Strip for our bedroom to add one some flooring contrast in our house. So D and his parents said, we can go back and ask the lady if they can do that for us, 2 different floorings. WAH! Confidently! I bebual macam faham ah please. Contrast lah, match wall colour painting lah. HAHAHAHAHA! When we went back, the lady said, it's not up to us to choose which flooring we want, the flooring is by default, whatever is written there, it's whatever we will get. HAHAHAHAHAHA!  Zzzzz! HAHAHAHA! But I was happy because, it's exactly what I wanted. Hehehe! I was teasing D that I wanted marble flooring instead and he was like "U nak I kerja sampai mati ke?"  Hehehehe! I was just pulling his leg.

And I wanted to "choose" this door than the rest of other door available. Hahaha! And guess what? This door is default ours too. Alhamdulilah!

The lady then discuss with us the payment etc etc etc. We did a 5% down payment on our CPF for our house and then D did a deposit of $2,000 which we will get back by cheque in 3 months time. However, if we cancel the booking of our house, the $2,000 payment will be forfeited. After the administration stuff, we are good to go and to come back only in 3 months time, with the finalization estimation of the payment of our house after deducting grant and etc etc etc.

D's mom was like "Eh dah pilih kan rumah. Jom jom tengok rumah (3D model) tu lagi." So we went over to the 3D model structure and D's dad started counting the 12th storey of that block and went "Ni rumah korang kan. Achid, sign nama kau kat situ." Excited parents. Hehehehehe! Ayah was excited too, at 3pm he called me and asked me whether my appointment went smoothly. He was so shocked that we took or rather I agreed to take the 12th storey one. Lol! He was like "Mak oi, Tinggi nya!" Hahahaha!

We did finally visit the different 2-room, 2-room flexi, 3-room, 4-room and 5-room flat showcase room. Looking at the design and furniture arrangement etc, makes me feel so excited to have my own house already. Okay, 6 years from now. All the best. Hahahaha!

So after the appointment, D's parents send me off to work and they send D back to HTA since he was still having his ongoing course + practical test.

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Everyone was pretty excited asking me about the house I have booked. They looked at our housing floor plan and also the site plan.

So according to some of my colleagues at work..

1) We chose the block that consist a lot of 2 rooms & 3 rooms flat and should have chose the other 2 blocks that have only 4 rooms and 5 rooms unit instead. I know this is being a bit too judgmental but there is somehow a factual to it. According to some of my colleagues, I hate to say this but you know those or rather SOME (not saying all) Malay couples probably "don't do too well" like yang tak betul kind or I'll like to say the hanyut kind, probably go for smaller flats and probably be noisy or be the lepak-lepak, mat rep kindaaaaaa. But some of my colleagues tell me to pray hard because it could be elderly people who just wants to downgrade to a smaller unit because their children are all married, which I hope.

2) The temple. According to some of my colleagues who stayed near temples say, it depends if the temple are the 'active' or the 'not so active' kind. Because those active temples kind will be quite noisy on a regular basis while those that are not so active kind, won't be that noisy. Maybe just occasionally.

And after work, D and I drop by to his brother's place to deliver his SIL their air fryer. Upon knowing that we already chose our flat, they too wanted to see our floor plan and site plan.

According to his brother, Sadiq. (I am not that sure what he work as, probably an interior designer if I am not wrong. D ever told me before but I didn't really pay much attention.) He said, we chose one of the good unit because it was a corner unit and our block doesn't get obstructed with any other surrounding unit, we are basically on our own - good views too. Lol! Furthermore, we are on the 12th storey high. And Sadiq did mention that by right our block should be gone by now because of how the block is like but surprisingly there is still quite a number of units left, which I have no idea why too. Must be the temple.  The good thing upon seeing our floor plan, Sadiq & Maria has already suggested some things here and there, like where we can place the dining table, where to place mirror to make the house look big etc etc etc.  Hehehe!

But all in all, we are half-way settle and good to go for now. Just awaiting for the SHG/AHG grant for approval which will take about few months time. I hope everything will go well and I hope my future house in 6 years time or hopefully be ready faster pleaseeeeeee and will serve my future family great love & happiness full of Iman & Takwah. Insyaallah. Amin.

Till here.

XOXO,

Princess Azie Anni ♥